Tag Archive: friendship


Advent word: Grace

Today I’m preparing Nonna’s broadbeans with first harvest from our garden. Handwritten, this is written out by a friend I don’t see much anymore but there is love and nourishment yet in the co-cooked closeness of a shared meal, or not. A different friend comes over for dinner and the love and nourishment are paid forward somehow. We give thanks for that. #grace #arohanoa #adventwords2019

Advent word: Unity

Hanging out with friends and fam #unity #kotahitanga #adventwords2019

All the arms we need

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020copyHere in this vortex of risk, vulnerability, hope and fear,
I stand with you.
Our paths are not the same
But for the ways in which they mix and
tangle in each other,
sometimes parallel,
sometimes perhaps at cross purposes,
yet never quite falling out of sight
I am glad and grateful.
May the journey bring answers,
growth and joy.
May the stepping out be its own reward.
May you be bold, and honest, and safe,
and return to me.

~ Bronwyn Hayward

Although technically the SAF event is on this weekend coming up (6-8 May) I hosted one at my house a week early so that Sarah could come – a community friend of mine who will be helping to prepare and serve food to guests this Friday.

I saw Sarah Wednesday and she asked “ooh, is there any chance I could try hangi?”, hmm… once I explained about digging the pit, huge bonfire, volcanic rock etc. it quickly became clear that it wasn’t going to be viable to pull together on short notice but we went with the NZ theme and had NZ cheeses & chutney, kumara & camembert cakes for an entree and salmon for a main with chocolate brownie for dessert (made with Whittakers naturally) and yoghurt flavoured with fijoa and manuka honey to take the edge off… just a little bit fancy!  Complemented by thyme and chillies from our garden – I had been shamefully neglecting my lawn but on the flipside we have three chilli plants! I’m sure if I had known they were there and tried to tend or water them they would have died off early… so procrastination is sometimes rewarded!

Sarah’s daughter Bella had us all drawing and, I will confess, no one resisted terribly hard – it was fun to have an excuse to be creative whether by our own inspiration or Bella’s firm requests! 🙂  Although everyone had pretty much met before, it was great to bring everyone into the room together and have some intentional time to get to know one another better.  From Lyn and Lyds fighting it out over who could go more chillies (those babies are HOT!), to laughing over my serving two types of potatoes with Aly who is Irish and thinks you can never have too many – it was a really fun night.

I guess the aim of these events is about stretching ourselves beyond the circle of who we know and who is familiar and reaching out beyond that circle.  Someone told me yesterday that English is one of the only languages that has the word “perfect” and its surrounding definitions of being very difficult to achieve.  The next closest word in other languages is “whole” – I think there’s something in that… remember, strangers are fiction…