Talitha Fraser
Tag Archive: journey
Creating the Right Space – CBM (Panel)
Considerations for creating spaces that are inclusive of people with different levels of ability:
- Want belonging and feeling treated the same/normal even though we know we’re not
- Eye contact but NOT staring
- Participation not about my disability – wanting to engage like everybody else
- Fundamental dignity: each of us have something to share/contribute
- Atmosphere – feel connected
- Send lyrics/talk text in advance and can direct it into Braille or audio myself (needs to be communicated if this is available and PDFs aren’t readable by the programmes)
- Everyone should be respected as a beloved son/daughter of God – I want to contribute to Christian community > able to share gifts
- Talk to me not around me as if I’m not here e.g. “Will she have tea?”
- Need space to be honest about how we feel – don’t pray away my feelings
- Have communion where they do (with them) e.g. if someone can’t access the alter – don’t just bring them theirs but have yours with them where they are
- Push in a little bit – there is fear (of being pushed away, rejected, condescended to…)
- How do you know you’re “in”? On a roster, invited home for lunch, take the communion cup around in my wheelchair.
- Regular time, place and routine for L’Arche rhythms (known and familiar)
- Can’t find love, can’t find friendship. Government can’t do that > spiritual communities are REALLY important
- Care-fronting sometimes with a conversation
- Time “efficiency” need to allow room for the spirit… can’t plan things. Let it be what it is. Let [people be themselves in their fullness (where people might talk more slowly or move more slowly… let their pace be OK)
- LABELS: Don’t freak out about it. Don’t let it be your barrier to talking with me. Have names for us too “sighties” and “Sight-trash” – it is a characteristic of who I am like having brown hair. Unhelpful…. handicapped, sufferer of…, carry a cross, disorder… use person-first language. “wheelies” and “cripps” like “queer” turning this language around to a positive framework named and claimed. If you have a relationship with me, let me use the word for myself and learn from listening. In safe space don’t need a label to feel safe but sometimes in public we do (paradox) – label can be the easiest way to get empathy/understanding when someone is behaving in unexpected ways.
- We have outsourced care and compassion e.g. Cert IV in disability – what would it mean to engage with me directly.
Barriers
- Physical things – steps/access/etc. and atmosphere
- Bad theology praying for us to be healed/whole > need to confront that. What do you think that says about my lived experience?
- “Perfect” Jesus still bore scars from the wounds on his body – perfect in imperfection.
Parables of Non-Violence – Transfiguration Community (Bible Study)
‘Making Things Right’: the call to be agents of reconciliation, peacemakers, restorers of broken relationships. How?
- What/who are the obstacles, the enemies, the hindrances to peace and reconciliation? Ego, culture, systems, celebrity, technology…
BIBLICAL: Portrait of the Enemy – Do we even know it? Do we take the existence of evil seriously?
- How do we resist these?
- Contemplative practice:
- first disarm your own heart
- the wrestling is not with flesh and blood but spiritual (the aim in wrestling is not to bring your opponent down but to remain standing yourself)
- the arena is within us
- then change from the inside out will happen
BIBLICAL: Jesus’ Temptation in the Desert (in the desert you have to answer some questions)
- Danger of outer journey without inner journey
- Story of 3 brothers: 2 activist, 1 contemplative
How does the kingdom of God come? How does lasting change happen (repentance)? Not by programs, ideas, ideologies or our mind being in control.
- Slow
- Hidden, in secret
- Non-violent, harmless growth or gestation
- Internal
- Surprising and inevitable fruit, in the face of formidable obstacles
Like a joke, pint is in the last line – fruit comes at the end.
Non-violence and love are the same. Self-emptying love – no power or manipulation of any kind: mental, emotional, physical…
Using power “for the best” > controlling
- Ask forgiveness (brothers and sisters don’t walk away from me, walk towards me)
- Daily discipline
- Have to listen
Being silent re-sensitises us to what is really happening, awareness, intuition, feeling… Going in to look at God leads you to look at others. Can’t only breathe in, have to breathe out.
Contemplative Space: The Cave/Gregg Morris
A stoic mind and a bleeding heart
You never see my bleeding heart
And your light’s always shining on
And I’ve been traveling oh so long
I’ve been traveling oh so long
A constant reminder of where I can find her
Light that might give up the way
Is all that I’m asking for without her I’m lost
Oh my love don’t fade away
Mumford and Sons (lyrics)
The Purpose behind questions is to intiate the quest ~ Phil Cousineau
Think of a question to ask your inner monk, your inner artist, and the two of them together.
* * *
I am going to start living like a monk…
My body will be attuned to the rhythms
of the seasons and the sacred
Grace will be found in simplicity
and in profound complexity too
the flowers will be my incense and
the canopy of dappled shade the
high arches of my chapel
I will kneel there – in good earth
daisies to dust
I am going to start living like an artist…
I will listen to my body more –
not only my doing-hands but
my dancing-feet, my oustretching-arms,
my glad-heart…
I will live in and move to the
resurrection given to me new
every morning I will learn to move
like water, like butterflies and
be still like stones and breeze-stirred flowers
asking for nothing except to be accepted
for what we are.
I will learn new ways to find You,new ways to follow You,
I will learn anew.
I am going to start living like a mystic…
In the beginning was the Word and
the Word was made flesh, my body
broken for You will speak more
loudly than my lips could ever argue
my silence in solidarity will speak more
than my suppressed, silent sexuality.
The prayers are my knowing You and
You knowing me and give shape to
the extent of my ignorance…
this will burn on a cairn made in
my watershed with these two hands
an offering, a confession, a covenant.
you, dear child
you exert so much energy
trying to be something other than
how you were made.
Rest. Rest in Me and know
that you are loved, you are
a delight to me and I am
proud of you – just as you are.
Come to me those who are weary
and heavy laden and I will give
you a real rest.
Rest. Rest in Me and know
that you are loved, there is no
one else you need to prove yourself
to or meet the expectations of,
there is no ‘right’ way or ‘normal’.
Each person must walk their own path
and I made each of you unique
– though your path may travel along
aside another’s, it may not, or may
not always and it is not given to
you to know the Way… I know
the Way. I AM the Way, and I am
with you always.
Rest. Rest here awhile with Me.
We can go on when you are ready.
Talitha Fraser
EPHESIANS 4: 7-16
But to each of us grace is granted and measured by the gift of Christ. Thus it says, “As He ascended on high, He led the captured away into captivity, He gave gifts to men.” But what does “He ascended” mean, except that He also went down into the lower parts of the earth? The One who descended is the very one who ascended far above all the heavens to fill the universe.
So He has given some to be apostles and others to be prophets; some to be evangelists and others to be pastors and teachers, to equip the saints for the task of ministering toward the building up of the body of Christ, until we all may arrive at the unity of faith and that understanding of the Son of God that brings completeness of personality, tending toward the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ. As a result, we should no longer be babes, swung back and forth and carried here and there with every wind of teaching that springs from human craftiness and ingenuity for designing error; but, telling the truth in love, we should grow up in every way toward Him who is the Head – Christ, from whom the entire body is fitted together and united by every contributing ligament, with proportion power for each single part to effect the development of the body for its upbuilding in love.
- God’s grace and the scope of it are God’s gifts to me
- The apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors and teachers are NOT saints but are here to equip the saints.
- “Building up until we all may arrive” – commitment to a process/a journey of growth through discipleship that brings completeness of personality… our personalities are not complete? “growing and transforming always… tending towards the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ”
- Guard against the human craftiness and ingenuity for devising …Guard against my own devising – conscious and unconscious.
- Misuse of “telling the truth in love” – need to be telling my own.
- We should grow up – Jesus the cornerstone
- Fitted together and united – partners in building
- Each single part to effect – each part necessary to the whole; if each part is necessary then tearing a part down or smothering it is counter-productive.
- Upbuilding in love
I will tell you something that has been a secret; that we are not all going to die, but we shall be changed.
1 Cor 15
I am hungry. I am full. I am empty. I am all these things in You.
These words from Corinthians bear hope for me. They give me a sense of space and flexibility where I have felt rigid and tight. This is the gift of Your grace and I am grateful for it.
We draw lines in the sand and then are constricted by the confines of the smallness of our own imaginations. This is why we require You and cannot trust to our own abilities. Let me confess I am slow to seek You, You speak but I do not hear, I look but do not see what You would show because I imagine I know. Give me the grace to know all I do not know, humble me to be dependent on You always and in all things.
Is our destination to You outside of ourselves or inwards? Both at the same time? It was clever for cities of old to be built as a maze with the church at the centre. You would always have a sense that you could not get lost because you’d have some understanding of where you stood in relation to God at all times. Sometimes near. Sometimes far. Even a deadend is useful in that we have learned the way not to go. Perhaps we find a place along the Way that is comfortable and we do not wish to go any further? Perhaps if we go too far we will not be able to find our way back? …but that is a fallacy – there is only ever forwards. Our commitment to God needs to be this, that ‘I will keep on moving forwards’. This page, limited to two dimensions, the image could seem to ascend or descend but it would be better to imagine some sort of Cubist mobile suspended in space and time in constant motion.
This is our God.
This is why I – and you – can be made new
in every moment, made anew, renewed
in every moment.
This beautiful artwork is used with permission of the talented artist Liz Braid www.lizbraid.com
As of April 2014 there are 1138 children in detention in Australia’s detention centres. It has been hard to know how to respond in the face of Australia’s inhospitable and inhumane policies/treatment of refugees seeking asylum.
Our God is Undocumented, a book by Ched Myers, offers a biblical exegesis for the American context and is drawn on below to consider the Australian context through the use of reflective prayer stations.
map of
the world – how can we identify with the journey of refugees, pin where we are from, our parents, our grandparents… use different coloured pins {Our God is Undocumented, p.10 “We should never forget that the first immigration “crisis” on this continent came as a result of European colonisation of the Americas. This resulted in three great disasters: the obliteration of First Nations sovereignty and cultures, the violent removal of millions of Africans to the Americas in the slave trade, and the impoverishment of countless people due to relentless resource and labor extraction… poor immigrants today are simply following the trail of wealth stolen from their land centuries ago.}
Australian has its own unreconciled history with its First Nations Koori people. Koori people have lived on this land for 50,000 years, us white folk less than 250 years. There is a bit of a “We outnumber you and ours is the dominant culture, why don’t you just assimilate/get with the programme” Where do we belong? What right did our ancestors have to arrive by boat for resources such as land and gold or to avoid famine? How can we use our own personal stories/history to develop a sense of compassion for those still arriving today? As can been seen at the Melbourne Immigration museum there have been waves of refugees from Vietnam, Philippines, Africa (Ethiopian, Eritrean, Sudanese…), Middle East (Iran, Iraq, Lebanon…) – what is the role of Australia in conflict/securing resources in these areas?
Say (or hear) Lords Prayer together in different languages. Spirit of Pentecost Acts 2.6,8,11 …in their own tongue. Didn’t all understand Latin/Greek but heard scripture in their own language. {Our God is Undocumented p.28 “Perhaps it recognises that language is one of the fundamental things that makes us human and that linguistic distinctiveness characterised the original forms of human organisation before the rise of imperial monocultures. The ancient wisdom preserved in this story reminds us that cultural heterogeneity is as essential to human social ecology as species diversity is to a healthy biosystem… more than 95% of the world’s spoken languages have fewer than 1 million native speakers. Half of all the languages have fewer than 10,000 speakers. A quarter of the world’s spoken languages and most of the sign languages have fewer that 1,000 users… It has been estimated that 20-50% of the world’s languages are already moribund, and that 90% (possibly even more) may be moribund or will have disappeared by 2100.”}
Does your congregating community have members from other cultures who attend? If not, why not? What are some ways to acknowledge, celebrate and affirm the cultural differences within our community? Language/stories/songs, festivals, wisdom of prophets/spiritual leaders, colours/fabrics/flags, food at morning tea, clothing… we all of us are made in God’s image – male/female, brown/yellow/black/white, no matter where we’re born. How can we draw on the richness of diversity in the God we worship?
share communion together {Our God Is Undocumented p. 200 “Remember what has been dismembered. This exhortation lies at the heart of the church’s eucharistic ritual, repeated with each element for emphasis. It reiterates and sums up the deep wisdom of biblical faith, the product of a people all too familiar with distress, displacements and near disappearance. Whenever you ingest this memory, said Jesus on the eve of his execution, you join yourselves to our historic struggle to make the broken body whole. It was, and is, both invitation and imperative, equally personal and political. If we refuse to heed it, we are doomed to drift forever on or be drowned by the tides of empire, refugees all.”}
This is one loaf of bread. One body.
It’s broken.
As Jesus’ body was broken on the cross for us.
this bit might be me…
this bit might be Jarra…
this bit might be Ahmed…this bit might be Rajesh…
this bit might be Sam, or Maya, or Bob, or Shirley…
When we eat this bread it is a reminder that we are all part of one whole – we might be a different colour, we might be a different size of a different shape – but we are all part of the same body… connected. And we are all of us broken. In each taking a piece, and eating it at the same time, we are invited back into wholeness with God and
with each other.
Angels – paper cut out? Something we can take away with us/put somewhere prominant to remind us to welcome the other {Our God Is Undocumented p.67 “…account of the angel travellers similarly attacked in Sodom, a violation that also ended in that city’s destruction (Jgs 19:15-25-Gn 19:1-11). …cautionary tale… “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by doing this some have entertained angels without knowing it” (Heb 13:2).
#LoveMakesAWay is a movement of Christians seeking an end to Australia’s inhumane asylum seeker policies through prayer and nonviolent love in action, you can see their Facebook page here. This is high-level commitment advocacy but there are less “extreme” places to start…
There is an initiative in Switzerland that suggests putting stickers on your mailbox to let your neighbours know what is available to borrow – we used to be able to knock on our neighbours door but nowadays spend more time online than in realtime…
Communities like Urban Seed in Melbourne offer a free meal to those marginalised by homelessness in Melbourne – but here’s the thing, they don’t only offer food to people who are homeless, they offer food to anyone that shows up for lunch as they explore what it means to be good neighbours in a busy city of commuters and extend us the invitation/challenge to do the same through their Strangers Are Fiction campaign.
Who are your neighbours? Do you know their names? What might be one thing you could do that might lead you into connecting with them? [fruit or flowers from the garden you want to share, or baking, maybe you take the initiative to borrow something next time you realise you’re low on milk or the grass is getting tall…] …who knows where this might lead?
Dolls house – have sample forms and invite people to write their own and take them home as a way of symbolically creating space for the other in your home {Our God Is Undocumented p.107 In my fathers house there is lots of room (Jn 14:2)
I went to an art exhibition last week with some art works around the theme of showing welcome to refugees such as that by Liz Braid above – they had some mock forms on the wall that said things like:
ASYLUM SEEKER
PROCESSING FORM
Please come in. What a
terrible journey you’ve had!
I’m so glad you have arrived
safely and to imagine, once
you’re healed, how much you
have to offer us. Let me help
you with your bags, we’ll have
you unpacked in no time…
You are welcome here. APPROVED
Invite people to write their own words of welcome, take them home and put them in a room of our own house with some intentionality and deliberation – symbolically creating space for the other is a good place to start and this can create some mindfulness to extending hospitality/welcome when an opportunity presents itself.
Anne Lamott has said, “Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come.”
Let us hope. Let us try and do the right thing.
This months Spiritual Reading group looked at the written works of Dag Hammerskjold – particularly Markings, you can read the notes here.
I found myself thinking in the session, ‘How did I not hear of Dag Hammerskjold before today?’ The book Markings is a fascinating insight to the work of God in someones life and the privilege of private insight into the struggle and conflict within ourselves from who we are to whom You intend for us to become. Dag Hammerskjold was known as a diplomat and economist – predominantly for his role as Secretary-General at the UN. it was only when Markings was published posthumously that we discover he was also a theologian – vocationally a secular monastic – he didn’t join an order or marry but found his own way ‘what makes loneliness an anguish in not that I have no one to share my burden, But this: I have only my burden to bear…’ Dag seems to have lived a selfless life. I am certain he was not perfect and would lay honest claim to his own hard-headed mistakes but he sought and he found something and I think that is the best of what any of us can hope for.
Tired
And lonely,
So tired
The heart aches.
Meltwater trickles
Down the rocks,
The fingers are numb,
The knees tremble.
It is now,
Now that you must not give in.
On the path of the others
Are resting places,
Places in the sun
Where they can meet.
But this
Is your path,
And it is now,
Now that you must not fail.
Weep
If you can,
Weep,
But do not complain.
The way chose you –
And you must be thankful.












